Self-Love Lessons…

I’m a bit late posting this one. So, we’ll call this one, Wednesday Mind Food…

Self-Love is a journey, not a destination…

One of the things I’ve learned on my healing journey is LOVE. How I define it, what I seek in it, and how i love others and most importantly how I love myself. I’m so open to love, but with healthy boundaries. It’s not a fairytale or impossible emotion. I can teach people how to love me, while being open to learning them and I’m clear when either one of us is not capable. There is a freedom in self-love. It’s creates a stronger, healthier, and more beautiful experience. This is not just for romantic relationships, but any relationship we entertain; family, friendships, workspaces, etc.

I was introduced to some podcasts recently called, Anxiety Rx & Manxiety By Dr. Russell Kennedy and Dr. Nima Rahmany. They asked the question, “How did you define love when you were a child? And how does that definition show up in your life today? Such a powerful question! How do you define love? What are your expectations of it? Do you show up in the love you desire? If love begins at the roots of our lives, how do we can we begin to learn healthier ways and true definitions of it?

I used to blame my ex for the pain I felt on my journey to love. It was not him! It was me! Not that he did not have a role in our relationship, or that he did not do things to hurt me… However, I lost clarity and control of my self-love and worth. Without my clarity and control, I was unable to create boundaries that kept me safe, or at least alerted me of danger. It was also how I defined love at that time. Love was not just me choosing to keep the peace. In fact, it was quite the opposite. There’s so much more to that journey, but I’ll save it for a future post.

So, what do we do do rebuild, redefine and nurture what we need now? We begin my acknowledging where we presently are. If we want to build anything, we must first know where we stand. I hope for you that you’re able to create this opportunity for yourself. I hope that you find the bravery and courage needed in order move forward and truly define love for yourself.

Podcast source:

Kennedy, Russell Dr. & Rahmany, Nima, Dr., The Anxiety of a Trauma Bond. Manxiety Podcast February 13, 2024